Once upon a time a man came to an old wise man. He was distraught because his friend started to avoid him. He asked wise man: - Teacher, my friend avoids me. I think he became bored with me. What should I do? - Do you still consider him your friend? - Asked the wise man. - Of course - man answered. - Then go to him and ask him directly why he behaves in such a way - suggested wise man - and if you sense in his words that he is truly avoiding you, then the best thing you can do as a friend - free him from the need to avoid you, and leave him be and don't seek him out. - And what if he wants to get back, what's the best I can do as a friend? - Don't hold a grudge - spoke the wise man.